{"id":26531,"date":"2026-07-07T06:12:40","date_gmt":"2026-07-07T06:12:40","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/bumzi.ro\/?p=26531"},"modified":"2026-07-07T06:12:40","modified_gmt":"2026-07-07T06:12:40","slug":"nu-i-am-spus-nimic-sotului-meu-si-am-plecat-la-mormantul-primei-lui-sotii","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/bumzi.ro\/?p=26531","title":{"rendered":"Nu i-am spus nimic so\u021bului meu \u0219i am plecat la morm\u00e2ntul primei lui so\u021bii"},"content":{"rendered":"<p class=\"PDq2pG_selectionAnchorContainer\" data-start=\"2112\" data-end=\"2145\">Buchetul mi-a alunecat din m\u00e2ini.<\/p>\n<p data-start=\"2147\" data-end=\"2201\">Pe monumentul funerar nu era gravat numele unei femei.<\/p>\n<p data-start=\"2203\" data-end=\"2242\">Era numele socrului \u0219i al soacrei mele.<\/p>\n<p data-start=\"2244\" data-end=\"2339\">Al\u0103turi de ei mai exista un singur nume: fratele mai mare al so\u021bului meu, decedat \u00een copil\u0103rie.<\/p>\n<p data-start=\"2341\" data-end=\"2388\">Dar numele primei lui so\u021bii nu ap\u0103rea nic\u0103ieri.<\/p>\n<p data-start=\"2390\" data-end=\"2462\">Am recitit de dou\u0103 ori toate inscrip\u021biile, convins\u0103 c\u0103 gre\u0219isem parcela.<\/p>\n<p data-start=\"2464\" data-end=\"2467\">Nu.<\/p>\n<p data-start=\"2469\" data-end=\"2513\">Eram \u00een locul indicat pe planul cimitirului.<\/p>\n<p data-start=\"2515\" data-end=\"2589\">Am f\u0103cut c\u00e2\u021biva pa\u0219i \u00eenapoi \u0219i am observat un \u00eengrijitor care uda florile.<\/p>\n<p data-start=\"2591\" data-end=\"2713\">\u2014 Bun\u0103 ziua, l-am \u00eentrebat. Caut morm\u00e2ntul unei femei pe nume Irina Popescu. So\u021bul ei mi-a spus c\u0103 este \u00eenmorm\u00e2ntat\u0103 aici.<\/p>\n<p data-start=\"2715\" data-end=\"2757\">B\u0103rbatul s-a uitat c\u00e2teva secunde la mine.<\/p>\n<p data-start=\"2759\" data-end=\"2840\">\u2014 Irina Popescu? Nu-mi spune mare lucru. Dar dac\u0103 \u00eemi spune\u021bi aproximativ anul&#8230;<\/p>\n<p data-start=\"2842\" data-end=\"2852\">I-am spus.<\/p>\n<p data-start=\"2854\" data-end=\"2873\">A cl\u0103tinat din cap.<\/p>\n<p data-start=\"2875\" data-end=\"2992\">\u2014 Lucrez aici de aproape dou\u0103zeci de ani. Nu a fost \u00eenmorm\u00e2ntat\u0103 nicio persoan\u0103 cu numele acesta \u00een parcela familiei.<\/p>\n<p data-start=\"2994\" data-end=\"3029\">Am sim\u021bit c\u0103 mi se taie picioarele.<\/p>\n<p data-start=\"3031\" data-end=\"3079\">\u00cen drum spre cas\u0103 nu m\u0103 puteam g\u00e2ndi la altceva.<\/p>\n<p data-start=\"3081\" data-end=\"3118\">Dac\u0103 nu era acolo&#8230; atunci unde era?<\/p>\n<p data-start=\"3120\" data-end=\"3162\">\u00cen seara aceea nu i-am spus nimic so\u021bului.<\/p>\n<p data-start=\"3164\" data-end=\"3315\">\u00cen schimb, a doua zi am mers la Starea Civil\u0103 \u0219i am cerut, \u00een limitele informa\u021biilor publice disponibile, s\u0103 verific existen\u021ba certificatului de deces.<\/p>\n<p data-start=\"3317\" data-end=\"3364\">Func\u021bionara a c\u0103utat c\u00e2teva minute \u00een registru.<\/p>\n<p data-start=\"3366\" data-end=\"3455\">\u2014 \u00cemi pare r\u0103u, dar nu exist\u0103 niciun certificat de deces pe acest nume \u0219i cu aceste date.<\/p>\n<p data-start=\"3457\" data-end=\"3479\">Am r\u0103mas f\u0103r\u0103 cuvinte.<\/p>\n<p data-start=\"3481\" data-end=\"3525\">\u00cen aceea\u0219i sear\u0103 l-am a\u0219teptat pe so\u021bul meu.<\/p>\n<p data-start=\"3527\" data-end=\"3547\">\u2014 Trebuie s\u0103 vorbim.<\/p>\n<p data-start=\"3549\" data-end=\"3588\">A observat imediat expresia fe\u021bei mele.<\/p>\n<p data-start=\"3590\" data-end=\"3609\">\u2014 Ce s-a \u00eent\u00e2mplat?<\/p>\n<p data-start=\"3611\" data-end=\"3632\">\u2014 Am fost la cimitir.<\/p>\n<p data-start=\"3634\" data-end=\"3651\">Fa\u021ba i s-a albit.<\/p>\n<p data-start=\"3653\" data-end=\"3678\">\u2014 \u021ai-am spus s\u0103 nu mergi.<\/p>\n<p data-start=\"3680\" data-end=\"3729\">\u2014 Nu despre asta este vorba. Irina nu este acolo.<\/p>\n<p data-start=\"3731\" data-end=\"3746\">A \u00eenchis ochii.<\/p>\n<p data-start=\"3748\" data-end=\"3788\">\u2014 \u0218i nici nu exist\u0103 certificat de deces.<\/p>\n<p data-start=\"3790\" data-end=\"3826\">Timp de c\u00e2teva secunde nu a r\u0103spuns.<\/p>\n<p data-start=\"3828\" data-end=\"3859\">Apoi s-a a\u0219ezat \u00eencet pe scaun.<\/p>\n<p data-start=\"3861\" data-end=\"3893\">\u2014 Pentru c\u0103&#8230; Irina nu a murit.<\/p>\n<p data-start=\"3895\" data-end=\"3934\">Am sim\u021bit cum mi se opre\u0219te respira\u021bia.<\/p>\n<p data-start=\"3936\" data-end=\"3948\">\u2014 Cum adic\u0103?<\/p>\n<p data-start=\"3950\" data-end=\"3961\">\u2014 A plecat.<\/p>\n<p data-start=\"3963\" data-end=\"3980\">Vocea \u00eei tremura.<\/p>\n<p data-start=\"3982\" data-end=\"4154\">\u2014 Acum \u0219ase ani a decis s\u0103 m\u0103 p\u0103r\u0103seasc\u0103. S-a mutat \u00een str\u0103in\u0103tate cu un alt b\u0103rbat \u0219i a rupt orice leg\u0103tur\u0103 cu familia. Mi-a spus c\u0103 nu mai vrea s\u0103 aud\u0103 niciodat\u0103 de mine.<\/p>\n<p data-start=\"4156\" data-end=\"4187\">L-am privit f\u0103r\u0103 s\u0103 spun nimic.<\/p>\n<p data-start=\"4189\" data-end=\"4388\">\u2014 Mi-era at\u00e2t de ru\u0219ine&#8230; continu\u0103 el. Tuturor le-am spus c\u0103 a murit. Inclusiv p\u0103rin\u021bilor mei. Era mai u\u0219or dec\u00e2t s\u0103 recunosc faptul c\u0103 m-a p\u0103r\u0103sit \u0219i c\u0103 nu mai voia s\u0103 aib\u0103 nimic de-a face cu mine.<\/p>\n<p data-start=\"4390\" data-end=\"4400\">\u2014 Iar mie?<\/p>\n<p data-start=\"4402\" data-end=\"4421\">A cobor\u00e2t privirea.<\/p>\n<p data-start=\"4423\" data-end=\"4580\">\u2014 La \u00eenceput voiam s\u0103-\u021bi spun adev\u0103rul. Dar cu fiecare lun\u0103 care trecea devenea tot mai greu. M-am temut c\u0103 m\u0103 vei considera un mincinos \u0219i c\u0103 m\u0103 vei p\u0103r\u0103si.<\/p>\n<p data-start=\"4582\" data-end=\"4611\">Am r\u0103mas mult timp \u00een t\u0103cere.<\/p>\n<p data-start=\"4613\" data-end=\"4650\">Nu faptul c\u0103 fusese p\u0103r\u0103sit m\u0103 r\u0103nea.<\/p>\n<p data-start=\"4652\" data-end=\"4725\">Ci faptul c\u0103 \u00ee\u0219i construise \u00eentreaga via\u021b\u0103 al\u0103turi de mine pe o minciun\u0103.<\/p>\n<p data-start=\"4727\" data-end=\"4789\">\u00cen urm\u0103toarele s\u0103pt\u0103m\u00e2ni am mers \u00eempreun\u0103 la terapie de cuplu.<\/p>\n<p data-start=\"4791\" data-end=\"4806\">Nu a fost u\u0219or.<\/p>\n<p data-start=\"4808\" data-end=\"4842\">\u00cencrederea nu se repar\u0103 \u00eentr-o zi.<\/p>\n<p data-start=\"4844\" data-end=\"4945\">A fost nevoie de multe discu\u021bii sincere \u0219i de r\u0103spunsuri la \u00eentreb\u0103ri pe care le evitase ani \u00eentregi.<\/p>\n<p data-start=\"4947\" data-end=\"4981\">\u00cen cele din urm\u0103 am ales s\u0103 r\u0103m\u00e2n.<\/p>\n<p data-start=\"4983\" data-end=\"5025\">Nu pentru c\u0103 minciuna nu ar fi fost grav\u0103.<\/p>\n<p data-start=\"5027\" data-end=\"5114\">Ci pentru c\u0103, pentru prima dat\u0103 de c\u00e2nd \u00eel cuno\u0219team, nu se mai ascundea \u00een spatele ei.<\/p>\n<p data-start=\"5116\" data-end=\"5174\">Uneori oamenii cred c\u0103 o minciun\u0103 \u00eei protejeaz\u0103 de ru\u0219ine.<\/p>\n<p data-start=\"5176\" data-end=\"5287\">Dar, de cele mai multe ori, adev\u0103rul spus la timp doare mult mai pu\u021bin dec\u00e2t o poveste \u00eentre\u021binut\u0103 ani de zile.<\/p>\n<p data-start=\"5289\" data-end=\"5404\">Iar \u00een ziua \u00een care am mers la acel cimitir credeam c\u0103 voi duce flori unei femei pe care nu o cunoscusem niciodat\u0103.<\/p>\n<p data-start=\"5406\" data-end=\"5491\" data-is-last-node=\"\" data-is-only-node=\"\">\u00cen schimb, am descoperit c\u0103 adev\u0103ratul lucru \u00eengropat de ani \u00eentregi fusese adev\u0103rul.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Buchetul mi-a alunecat din m\u00e2ini. Pe monumentul funerar nu era gravat numele unei femei. Era numele socrului \u0219i al soacrei mele. Al\u0103turi de ei mai exista un singur nume: fratele mai mare al so\u021bului meu, decedat \u00een copil\u0103rie. Dar numele primei lui so\u021bii nu ap\u0103rea nic\u0103ieri. Am recitit de dou\u0103 ori toate inscrip\u021biile, convins\u0103 c\u0103 [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":22820,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[18],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-26531","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-povesti"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/bumzi.ro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/26531","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/bumzi.ro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/bumzi.ro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/bumzi.ro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/bumzi.ro\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=26531"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/bumzi.ro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/26531\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":26532,"href":"https:\/\/bumzi.ro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/26531\/revisions\/26532"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/bumzi.ro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/22820"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/bumzi.ro\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=26531"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/bumzi.ro\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=26531"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/bumzi.ro\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=26531"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}