{"id":28601,"date":"2026-09-06T06:45:02","date_gmt":"2026-09-06T06:45:02","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/bumzi.ro\/?p=28601"},"modified":"2026-09-06T06:45:02","modified_gmt":"2026-09-06T06:45:02","slug":"am-adoptat-un-frate-adolescent-si-pe-surioara-lui-dupa-ce-toate-celelalte-familii-ii-refuzasera","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/bumzi.ro\/?p=28601","title":{"rendered":"Am adoptat un frate adolescent \u0219i pe surioara lui dup\u0103 ce toate celelalte familii \u00eei refuzaser\u0103"},"content":{"rendered":"

\u2014 Iacob v-a ales<\/strong>, spuse femeia.<\/p>\n

Am r\u0103mas cu telefonul lipit de ureche.<\/p>\n

\u2014 Cum adic\u0103 ne-a ales?<\/p>\n

\u2014 C\u00e2nd i s-au ar\u0103tat dosarele familiilor interesate de adop\u021bie, a v\u0103zut fotografia voastr\u0103. A spus imediat c\u0103 vrea s\u0103 v\u0103 cunoasc\u0103.<\/p>\n

\u2014 De ce?<\/p>\n

La cel\u0103lalt cap\u0103t al firului se l\u0103s\u0103 c\u00e2teva secunde de t\u0103cere.<\/p>\n

\u2014 Pentru c\u0103 v\u0103 mai v\u0103zuse.<\/p>\n

Am sim\u021bit un fior.<\/p>\n

\u2014 Unde?<\/p>\n

\u2014 Cred c\u0103 ar fi mai bine s\u0103 v\u0103 spun\u0103 el. Dar dac\u0103 nu v-a spus p\u00e2n\u0103 acum, probabil \u00eei este fric\u0103.<\/p>\n

\u2014 Fric\u0103 de ce?<\/p>\n

Femeia oft\u0103.<\/p>\n

\u2014 C\u0103, dac\u0103 afla\u021bi adev\u0103rul, o s\u0103 crede\u021bi c\u0103 v-a manipulat ca s\u0103 o adopta\u021bi pe Iosifina.<\/p>\n

Am \u00eenchis telefonul cu m\u00e2inile tremur\u00e2nd.<\/p>\n

\u00cen sufragerie, Iacob o ajuta pe Iosifina s\u0103 construiasc\u0103 un castel din cuburi.<\/p>\n

L-am privit c\u00e2teva secunde.<\/p>\n

Apoi am spus:<\/p>\n

\u2014 Iacob, putem vorbi pu\u021bin?<\/p>\n

S-a uitat la mine \u0219i, dup\u0103 expresia mea, a \u00een\u021beles imediat.<\/p>\n

Z\u00e2mbetul i-a disp\u0103rut.<\/p>\n

\u2014 V-a sunat doamna Mariana?<\/p>\n

Atunci am \u0219tiut.<\/p>\n

\u2014 Da.<\/p>\n

Iacob \u00ee\u0219i cobor\u00ee privirea.<\/p>\n

\u2014 \u0218tiam c\u0103 o s\u0103 v\u0103 spun\u0103 p\u00e2n\u0103 la urm\u0103.<\/p>\n

\u2014 Ce anume?<\/p>\n

Se ridic\u0103 f\u0103r\u0103 s\u0103 r\u0103spund\u0103 \u0219i urc\u0103 \u00een camera lui.<\/p>\n

C\u00e2teva minute mai t\u00e2rziu cobor\u00ee cu un plic vechi.<\/p>\n

Din el scoase o fotografie.<\/p>\n

Mi-a \u00eentins-o.<\/p>\n

\u0218i pentru c\u00e2teva secunde n-am \u00een\u021beles ce priveam.<\/p>\n

Eram eu.<\/p>\n

Cu so\u021bul meu, Andrei<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

Fotografia fusese f\u0103cut\u0103 cu aproape \u0219apte ani \u00eenainte.<\/p>\n

Eram \u00een curtea unui centru pentru copii din Bucure\u0219ti, l\u00e2ng\u0103 o mas\u0103 plin\u0103 cu pachete de Cr\u0103ciun.<\/p>\n

\u2014 Dumnezeule…<\/p>\n

\u00cemi aminteam ziua.<\/p>\n

Firma la care lucram organizase o campanie de s\u0103rb\u0103tori. Eu \u0219i Andrei merseser\u0103m voluntari.<\/p>\n

Fusese cu mult \u00eenainte s\u0103 ne g\u00e2ndim serios la adop\u021bie.<\/p>\n

\u2014 Tu erai acolo? am \u00eentrebat.<\/p>\n

Iacob d\u0103du din cap.<\/p>\n

\u2014 Aveam nou\u0103 ani.<\/p>\n

Am \u00eentors fotografia.<\/p>\n

\u00cen spatele nostru, aproape ascuns de un brad artificial, se vedea un b\u0103ie\u021bel slab, cu un pulover albastru.<\/p>\n

Iacob.<\/p>\n

\u2014 Dar de ce ne-ai \u021binut minte?<\/p>\n

S-a uitat spre Iosifina.<\/p>\n

\u2014 Nu pe voi v-am \u021binut minte prima dat\u0103. Pe Andrei.<\/p>\n

\u00cen acel moment so\u021bul meu intr\u0103 \u00een camer\u0103.<\/p>\n

\u2014 Ce se \u00eent\u00e2mpl\u0103?<\/p>\n

I-am \u00eentins fotografia.<\/p>\n

Andrei o privi.<\/p>\n

Apoi \u00eel privi pe Iacob.<\/p>\n

\u2014 Tu erai b\u0103iatul cu ma\u0219inu\u021ba.<\/p>\n

Iacob ridic\u0103 brusc ochii.<\/p>\n

\u2014 V\u0103 aminti\u021bi?<\/p>\n

\u2014 Aveai o ma\u0219inu\u021b\u0103 ro\u0219ie f\u0103r\u0103 o roat\u0103.<\/p>\n

Iacob \u00eencepu s\u0103 pl\u00e2ng\u0103.<\/p>\n

Era prima dat\u0103 c\u00e2nd \u00eel vedeam pl\u00e2ng\u00e2nd.<\/p>\n

\n

\u00cen acea zi de Cr\u0103ciun, Andrei petrecuse aproape o or\u0103 repar\u00e2nd o ma\u0219inu\u021b\u0103 ieftin\u0103 \u00eempreun\u0103 cu un copil de nou\u0103 ani.<\/p>\n

Eu abia \u00eemi aminteam momentul.<\/p>\n

Pentru noi fusese o dup\u0103-amiaz\u0103.<\/p>\n

Pentru Iacob fusese altceva.<\/p>\n

\u2014 M-a\u021bi \u00eentrebat ce vreau de Cr\u0103ciun, \u00eei spuse el lui Andrei.<\/p>\n

\u2014 \u0218i ce mi-ai r\u0103spuns?<\/p>\n

\u2014 C\u0103 voiam ca sora mea s\u0103 se \u00eentoarc\u0103.<\/p>\n

Am \u00eencremenit.<\/p>\n

Iosifina nici m\u0103car nu era n\u0103scut\u0103 atunci.<\/p>\n

Iacob explic\u0103.<\/p>\n

Avea o sor\u0103 mai mare, Ana<\/strong>, de care fusese separat dup\u0103 intrarea \u00een sistemul de protec\u021bie.<\/p>\n

La c\u00e2teva luni dup\u0103 acea \u00eent\u00e2lnire, Ana murise \u00een urma unei boli.<\/p>\n

Ani mai t\u00e2rziu, mama biologic\u0103 a lui Iacob n\u0103scuse-o pe Iosifina.<\/p>\n

C\u00e2nd \u0219i ea ajunsese \u00een sistem, Iacob f\u0103cuse tot ce putuse pentru ca m\u0103car de data aceea s\u0103 nu-\u0219i mai piard\u0103 sora.<\/p>\n

Atunci am \u00een\u021beles de ce fiecare respingere \u00eel lovise at\u00e2t de tare.<\/p>\n

Nu se temea doar c\u0103 el nu va fi adoptat.<\/p>\n

Se temea c\u0103 \u00eentr-o zi cineva avea s\u0103 spun\u0103:<\/p>\n

\u201eO lu\u0103m pe feti\u021b\u0103, dar pe b\u0103iat nu.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u0218i avea s\u0103 piard\u0103 \u00eenc\u0103 o sor\u0103.<\/p>\n

\n

\u2014 Dar de ce noi? am \u00eentrebat.<\/p>\n

Iacob \u00ee\u0219i \u0219terse obrajii.<\/p>\n

\u2014 \u00cen ziua aia, dup\u0103 ce a\u021bi reparat ma\u0219inu\u021ba, un alt copil v-a \u00eentrebat dac\u0103 ave\u021bi copii.<\/p>\n

Andrei \u00eencepu s\u0103-\u0219i aminteasc\u0103.<\/p>\n

\u2014 I-am spus c\u0103 nu.<\/p>\n

\u2014 \u0218i copilul a zis: \u201eAtunci de ce veni\u021bi aici?\u201d<\/p>\n

Iacob se uit\u0103 la noi.<\/p>\n

\u2014 Dumneavoastr\u0103 a\u021bi spus: \u201ePentru c\u0103 nu trebuie s\u0103 fii p\u0103rintele unui copil ca s\u0103-i pese cuiva de el.\u201d<\/p>\n

Andrei r\u0103mase nemi\u0219cat.<\/p>\n

Nu-\u0219i mai amintea cuvintele.<\/p>\n

Iacob da.<\/p>\n

Timp de \u0219apte ani.<\/p>\n

\u2014 C\u00e2nd doamna de la adop\u021bii mi-a ar\u0103tat fotografia voastr\u0103, v-am recunoscut, continu\u0103 el. Am zis c\u0103 vreau s\u0103 v\u0103 \u00eent\u00e2lnesc.<\/p>\n

\u2014 De ce nu ne-ai spus?<\/p>\n

\u2014 Pentru c\u0103 voiam s\u0103 o lua\u021bi pe Iosifina.<\/p>\n

Vocea i se fr\u00e2nse.<\/p>\n

\u2014 \u0218i m-am g\u00e2ndit c\u0103 dac\u0103 v\u0103 spun c\u0103 v\u0103 cunosc, poate o s\u0103 crede\u021bi c\u0103 \u00eencerc s\u0103 v\u0103 p\u0103c\u0103lesc.<\/p>\n

\u2014 Iacob…<\/p>\n

\u2014 To\u021bi ceilal\u021bi o voiau pe ea.<\/p>\n

Se uit\u0103 la sora lui.<\/p>\n

\u2014 Eu eram problema.<\/p>\n

M-am ridicat.<\/p>\n

\u2014 Nu.<\/p>\n

\u2014 Ba da. De fiecare dat\u0103 c\u00e2nd o familie afla c\u0103 trebuie s\u0103 m\u0103 ia \u0219i pe mine, disp\u0103rea.<\/p>\n

\u2014 Tu nu e\u0219ti pre\u021bul care vine \u00eempreun\u0103 cu sora ta.<\/p>\n

Iacob nu m\u0103 privi.<\/p>\n

\u2014 A\u0219a se sim\u021bea.<\/p>\n

\n

Atunci Iosifina, care ascultase f\u0103r\u0103 s\u0103 \u00een\u021beleag\u0103 totul, se ridic\u0103 de pe covor \u0219i veni l\u00e2ng\u0103 fratele ei.<\/p>\n

\u2014 De ce pl\u00e2ngi?<\/p>\n

\u2014 Sunt bine.<\/p>\n

\u2014 Nu e\u0219ti.<\/p>\n

\u00cei puse \u00een bra\u021be unul dintre cuburile ei.<\/p>\n

\u2014 Uite. \u00ce\u021bi dau casa.<\/p>\n

To\u021bi trei am \u00eenceput s\u0103 r\u00e2dem printre lacrimi.<\/p>\n

Iacob o lu\u0103 \u00een bra\u021be.<\/p>\n

Iar eu am \u00een\u021beles \u00een acel moment ceva ce nu pricepusem \u00een prima lun\u0103.<\/p>\n

Valiza lui \u00eempachetat\u0103 nu \u00eensemna c\u0103 nu voia s\u0103 fac\u0103 parte din familia noastr\u0103.<\/p>\n

\u00censemna c\u0103 se preg\u0103tea pentru ziua \u00een care urma s\u0103 fie dat afar\u0103 din ea.<\/p>\n

\n

\u00cen seara aceea, dup\u0103 ce Iosifina adormi, eu \u0219i Andrei ne-am a\u0219ezat cu Iacob la masa din buc\u0103t\u0103rie.<\/p>\n

\u2014 Vreau s\u0103-\u021bi spunem ceva, \u00eencepu Andrei. \u0218i vreau s\u0103 fii atent.<\/p>\n

Iacob ridic\u0103 ochii.<\/p>\n

\u2014 Noi nu am acceptat adop\u021bia ca s\u0103 ajungem la Iosifina.<\/p>\n

T\u0103cere.<\/p>\n

\u2014 Am acceptat pentru c\u0103 atunci c\u00e2nd ni s-a spus c\u0103 sunte\u021bi doi, am \u00een\u021beles c\u0103 familia pe care o c\u0103utam era format\u0103 din doi copii.<\/p>\n

Iacob \u00ee\u0219i str\u00e2nse m\u00e2inile.<\/p>\n

\u2014 Dar dac\u0103 eu fac ceva r\u0103u?<\/p>\n

\u2014 Atunci discut\u0103m.<\/p>\n

\u2014 Dac\u0103 iau note proaste?<\/p>\n

\u2014 Vedem cum le \u00eendrept\u0103m.<\/p>\n

\u2014 Dac\u0103 m\u0103 cert cu voi?<\/p>\n

Am z\u00e2mbit.<\/p>\n

\u2014 Ai \u0219aisprezece ani. Ar fi aproape suspect s\u0103 nu te cer\u021bi niciodat\u0103 cu noi.<\/p>\n

Pentru prima dat\u0103, z\u00e2mbi.<\/p>\n

Apoi \u00eentreb\u0103 lucrul care \u00eel speriase cu adev\u0103rat:<\/p>\n

\u2014 \u0218i dac\u0103 v\u0103 r\u0103zg\u00e2ndi\u021bi?<\/p>\n

Andrei r\u0103spunse \u00eenaintea mea.<\/p>\n

\u2014 Atunci o s\u0103 ne r\u0103zg\u00e2ndim \u00een privin\u021ba cine spal\u0103 vasele sau unde mergem \u00een vacan\u021b\u0103. Nu \u00een privin\u021ba faptului c\u0103 e\u0219ti fiul nostru.<\/p>\n

Iacob \u00eencepu din nou s\u0103 pl\u00e2ng\u0103.<\/p>\n

De data aceasta nu-\u0219i mai ascunse fa\u021ba.<\/p>\n

\n

C\u00e2teva s\u0103pt\u0103m\u00e2ni mai t\u00e2rziu, am intrat \u00een camera lui ca s\u0103-i duc ni\u0219te haine curate.<\/p>\n

Valiza disp\u0103ruse de l\u00e2ng\u0103 pat.<\/p>\n

Am g\u0103sit-o \u00een dulap.<\/p>\n

Goal\u0103.<\/p>\n

Hainele erau \u00een sertare.<\/p>\n

C\u0103r\u021bile pe raft.<\/p>\n

Fotografiile pe birou.<\/p>\n

Iar pe perete era prins\u0103 fotografia aceea veche de Cr\u0103ciun.<\/p>\n

Sub ea, Iacob pusese o fotografie nou\u0103.<\/p>\n

Noi patru.<\/p>\n

Eu, Andrei, Iosifina \u0219i el.<\/p>\n

Pe spatele fotografiei vechi scrisese:<\/p>\n

\u201ePrima dat\u0103 c\u00e2nd i-am \u00eent\u00e2lnit.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n

Pe cea nou\u0103:<\/p>\n

\u201ePrima dat\u0103 c\u00e2nd am \u0219tiut c\u0103 r\u0103m\u00e2n.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n

\n

Au trecut doi ani.<\/p>\n

Iacob are acum optsprezece ani.<\/p>\n

C\u00e2nd a terminat liceul, fosta lui asistent\u0103 maternal\u0103, Mariana, a venit la festivitate.<\/p>\n

Dup\u0103 ceremonie m-a luat deoparte.<\/p>\n

\u2014 Acum \u00een\u021belegi de ce te-am sunat atunci?<\/p>\n

Am privit spre Iacob.<\/p>\n

\u00ce\u0219i \u021binea sora de m\u00e2n\u0103 \u00een timp ce Andrei \u00eencerca s\u0103-i fac\u0103 o fotografie decent\u0103.<\/p>\n

\u2014 Da.<\/p>\n

Mariana z\u00e2mbi.<\/p>\n

\u2014 El credea c\u0103 v-a ales pentru Iosifina.<\/p>\n

\u2014 \u0218tiu.<\/p>\n

\u2014 Dar eu cred c\u0103 v-a ales \u0219i pentru el.<\/p>\n

M-am uitat din nou la b\u0103iatul care, cu doi ani \u00eenainte, dormea cu toate lucrurile \u00eempachetate.<\/p>\n

Iacob m\u0103 v\u0103zu \u0219i strig\u0103:<\/p>\n

\u2014 Mam\u0103! Hai odat\u0103, facem poza!<\/p>\n

Mam\u0103.<\/p>\n

Nu \u201edoamn\u0103\u201d.<\/p>\n

Nu numele meu.<\/p>\n

Mam\u0103.<\/p>\n

M-am dus l\u00e2ng\u0103 ei.<\/p>\n

\u00cenainte ca aparatul s\u0103 fotografieze, Iosifina \u00eentreb\u0103:<\/p>\n

\u2014 Cine pe cine a adoptat p\u00e2n\u0103 la urm\u0103?<\/p>\n

Am r\u00e2s.<\/p>\n

Iacob \u00eei ciufuli p\u0103rul.<\/p>\n

\u2014 Cred c\u0103 ne-am ales unii pe al\u021bii.<\/p>\n

\u0218i avea dreptate.<\/p>\n

Timp de ani \u00eentregi, familiile \u00eel priviser\u0103 pe Iacob ca pe obstacolul care venea \u00eempreun\u0103 cu o feti\u021b\u0103 adorabil\u0103.<\/p>\n

Dar noi descoperiser\u0103m exact contrariul.<\/p>\n

Nu \u00eel primiser\u0103m pe Iacob ca s\u0103 o putem adopta pe Iosifina. \u00cei primiser\u0103m pe am\u00e2ndoi pentru c\u0103 o familie nu \u00eenseamn\u0103 s\u0103 alegi copilul cel mai u\u0219or de iubit. \u00censeamn\u0103 s\u0103 te asiguri c\u0103 niciunul dintre ei nu mai trebuie s\u0103-\u0219i \u021bin\u0103 vreodat\u0103 valiza preg\u0103tit\u0103 l\u00e2ng\u0103 pat.<\/strong><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

\u2014 Iacob v-a ales, spuse femeia. Am r\u0103mas cu telefonul lipit de ureche. \u2014 Cum adic\u0103 ne-a ales? \u2014 C\u00e2nd i s-au ar\u0103tat dosarele familiilor interesate de adop\u021bie, a v\u0103zut fotografia voastr\u0103. A spus imediat c\u0103 vrea s\u0103 v\u0103 cunoasc\u0103. \u2014 De ce? La cel\u0103lalt cap\u0103t al firului se l\u0103s\u0103 c\u00e2teva secunde de t\u0103cere. \u2014 […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":26578,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-28601","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-diverse"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/bumzi.ro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/28601","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/bumzi.ro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/bumzi.ro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/bumzi.ro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/bumzi.ro\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=28601"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/bumzi.ro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/28601\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":28602,"href":"https:\/\/bumzi.ro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/28601\/revisions\/28602"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/bumzi.ro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/26578"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/bumzi.ro\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=28601"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/bumzi.ro\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=28601"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/bumzi.ro\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=28601"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}